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                                        TMI | The University of Abject Submission
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                                        BDSM, books and missing links by Xiao Yingtai. What makes us tick? How to do it. Safety & Ethics. Happy Valenniversary to Me! Happy Valentine’s Day from a happy single! It’s almost exactly a year since I walked out of my ex’s apartment with my head reeling. Not coincidentally, it’s also just about a year since I started blogging. There is causality there, but it’s not what you’d expect. I think blogging gave me the strength to say […]. Resolutions: Looking Back, Looking Forward. I’m Just Weird. God I fee...
                                     
                                    
                                        
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                                        Fiction for us | The University of Abject Submission
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                                        BDSM, books and missing links by Xiao Yingtai. What makes us tick? How to do it. Safety & Ethics. Tag Archives: Fiction for us. Leather Writing Awards 2015. This announcement is old (20 April), but I thought you might appreciate a linked version. The 👍 emoji indicates finalists, the 🏆 emoji winners. Enjoy! Marketplace Q&A with Laura Antoniou. We are repaying her generosity with the toughest questions we could manage. Thank you so much, Laura! The Love Letter of O. Devil on my back. Doesn’t that s...
                                     
                                    
                                        
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                                        Communication | The University of Abject Submission
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                                        BDSM, books and missing links by Xiao Yingtai. What makes us tick? How to do it. Safety & Ethics. How to do it. Originally written for Submissive Guide. Doms keep telling us that they’re not mind-readers, so we have to communicate. But it’s hard! Especially when it’s something they might not want to hear. The good news is that there is always a submissive way to say it. And you never have to compromise the message. Here is […]. The view from down here. How to do it. What makes us tick? How to do it. 
                                     
                                    
                                        
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                                        Video Special: Is It Safe for Work? | The University of Abject Submission
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                                        BDSM, books and missing links by Xiao Yingtai. What makes us tick? How to do it. Safety & Ethics. Video Special: Is It Safe for Work? CC BY 2.0). I’ve had enough psychoanalysis. For a change, shall we watch my favourite maybe-not-quite-safe-for-work videos? First, the legendary Gypsy Rose Lee. A comedienne first, an ecdysiast. And then there’s Sadie the bellydancer. Too How do you make bellydancing demure and understated? I don’t know! Finally, Les Beaux Frères. When You Need a (Kinky) Laugh. How to do it. 
                                     
                                    
                                        
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                                        How to do it | The University of Abject Submission
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                                        BDSM, books and missing links by Xiao Yingtai. What makes us tick? How to do it. Safety & Ethics. Category Archives: How to do it. How to do it. Originally written for Submissive Guide. Doms keep telling us that they’re not mind-readers, so we have to communicate. But it’s hard! Especially when it’s something they might not want to hear. The good news is that there is always a submissive way to say it. And you never have to compromise the message. Here is […]. The view from down here. How to do it. 8221;...
                                     
                                    
                                        
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                                        Rec lists | The University of Abject Submission
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                                        BDSM, books and missing links by Xiao Yingtai. What makes us tick? How to do it. Safety & Ethics. Tag Archives: Rec lists. Leather Writing Awards 2015. This announcement is old (20 April), but I thought you might appreciate a linked version. The 👍 emoji indicates finalists, the 🏆 emoji winners. Enjoy! The Consent Debate: Then and Now. I started a BDSM classics reading group! People actually signed up and everything! How to do it. Subs Need Classes Too! The view from down here. Is it bad for me? Leather...
                                     
                                    
                                        
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                                        Archives | The University of Abject Submission
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                                        BDSM, books and missing links by Xiao Yingtai. What makes us tick? How to do it. Safety & Ethics. E[lust] #76 – Sex After Birth. Introducing the Abject Kitten, Part 2. Introducing the Abject Kitten, Part 1. Rough Draft: Raven’s Nest. The Beatings Will Continue. Sub Ethics: Owning Our Power. Leather Writing Awards 2015. How to Apologise When You’re Called Out. It’s a Bad Day for Rope Consent. Video Special: Is It Safe for Work? My Emotional Masochism Isn’t Therapy. Guest Post: Is Racism Sexy? Pain Is a Ba...
                                     
                                    
                                        
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                                        Ethics | The University of Abject Submission
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                                        BDSM, books and missing links by Xiao Yingtai. What makes us tick? How to do it. Safety & Ethics. Sub Ethics: Owning Our Power. This is the fifth post in the Submissive Power series. Once upon a time there was a play-fight, and I was pinned. In my total inexperience, I shoved my elbow backwards, and hey presto, there was a long man on the floor. I didn’t know whether to laugh or to panic. It didn’t help when […]. The view from down here. How to do it. How to Apologise When You’re Called Out. Argh I’...
                                     
                                    
                                        
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                                        My Emotional Masochism Isn’t Therapy | The University of Abject Submission
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                                        BDSM, books and missing links by Xiao Yingtai. What makes us tick? How to do it. Safety & Ethics. What makes us tick? My Emotional Masochism Isn’t Therapy. Image by bycfotografem (public domain). Last week, guest blogger Cava Supernova asked, provocatively, “ Is racism sexy? She told us the story of an early kink encounter in which an awesome black man begged her to call him her nigger and her. This out-of-the-blue request floored poor Cava and she asked us to help her figure it out. I’m not quite ...
                                     
                         
                            
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