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Observations: I See Myself in Other People
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Sunday, May 10, 2015. I See Myself in Other People. I see myself in other people and sometimes that's a good thing and sometimes it's not. A long time ago I really thought that people were all like me so if they did stuff I didn't like I thought they were doing it on purpose to annoy or hurt me. That's very immature and borderline crazy I later learned. So I think, "Why is this person so resistant to changing their point of view and doing things differently? You must really be suffering! Also, if the peo...
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Observations: My New Mantra
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Sunday, May 03, 2015. I've decided that it's no longer necessary for me to be shocked and amazed when I hear about somebody doing something clearly nuts. So my new mantra is, "People: We be crazy! How is it possible that I either read about or hear about many, many utterly dysfunctional things that we do every day? I would think that the majority of us are behaving in a fairly sane way most of the time. Maybe we are, and that doesn't make the news. There's a huge amount of very reliable information about...
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Observations: June 2014
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Wednesday, June 25, 2014. Painful Emotions are Actually Useful. For a lot of my adult life I just wanted all my emotions to just go away. I kind of wanted happy to stay but was willing to give it up to get rid of the others. I had no problem with going through life being numb. I felt like I had had enough painful emotions to last a lifetime and I was just finished with the whole thing. In recovery I learned that emotions were given to us humans as tools to keep us safe. I had no idea! Since people in rec...
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Observations: May 2015
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Sunday, May 10, 2015. I See Myself in Other People. I see myself in other people and sometimes that's a good thing and sometimes it's not. A long time ago I really thought that people were all like me so if they did stuff I didn't like I thought they were doing it on purpose to annoy or hurt me. That's very immature and borderline crazy I later learned. So I think, "Why is this person so resistant to changing their point of view and doing things differently? You must really be suffering! Also, if the peo...
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Observations: Productivity and Busyness don't make me a Good Person
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Sunday, April 05, 2015. Productivity and Busyness don't make me a Good Person. For most of my adult life I worked twelve to sixteen hours a day. Some of it was my job. The rest was upkeep on my home and yard, child care, and personal care. Even when I was supposed to be having fun I was mentally worrying about whether I was doing it right and trying harder and harder to do it right. By eliminating as much as I can of the unnecessary, I've got time to meditate, pray, read, walk, exercise and write. I ...
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Observations: September 2014
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Tuesday, September 23, 2014. Living in Solutions - Changing the Things I Can. The help I got was a combination of information and instruction on how to generate solutions. The basic thing about generating solutions was to ask myself one question: "How can I make this situation better or solve this problem WITHOUT trying to make anyone else change.". Saturday, September 20, 2014. Living in Solutions - Acceptance. I had to learn the acceptance part of problem-solving before I could learn the rest. Acce...
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Observations: The Bible and Misunderstandings
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Friday, April 03, 2015. The Bible and Misunderstandings. It worries me a lot when religious people quote the Bible as instructions for judging people. Over the years I've heard verses quoted (usually from the Old Testament) that justified slavery and the inherent "less-than" status of African Americans (the Curse of Ham), justification of putting people to death who had sex in other ways than the mainstream, and other very scary things. Subscribe to: Post Comments (Atom). My Crappy Nervous System. Http:/...
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Observations: February 2015
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Saturday, February 21, 2015. 20 Things I Wish Someone Had Taught Me When I Was a Kid. There's so much to know to have a happy life. And at my advanced age I've noticed that a whole lot of us never got the instructions. In fact we were taught a bunch of stuff that isn't true. I was taught: Do what you're told, get good grades, have the right kind of friends (whatever that is - probably those that do what they're told, get good grades and whose families are of the same social class as yours). Keep in mind ...
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Observations: When Is Being Sensitive Good and When Is It Not?
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Thursday, April 02, 2015. When Is Being Sensitive Good and When Is It Not? I was and still am in some ways what I would call a sensitive person. My sense of hearing, smell, touch and taste were all very sharp and I am grateful that it seems to me that my senses still are pretty sharp. But I was also sensitive emotionally - if I was criticized I pretty much fell into despair. This is one I still struggle with. A little crude perhaps but definitely clear. The answer is no. It does not make me one&#...Produ...
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Observations: August 2014
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Friday, August 29, 2014. Letting Go of Judgments. September in Leo's Sea Change program (Zen Habits), is letting go of being judgmental month. Wow! That's a challenge for me, for sure. I really learned at an early age that criticizing everything was a nice change from my constant internal criticizing of myself. I've spent most of my adult life with judgments taking up most of my mind. For example, I've judged myself harshly (and I think other people have also), for sleeping and resting too much. I ha...
