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single-minded-endeavours: December 2013

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Life from the other side of coupledom. Sunday, 22 December 2013. I am the product of a blended family. My parents both remarried when I was quite young and Dad went on to have more children. The relationship between my birth parents is.strained. My brother is married and his wife's parents are also divorced. I separated from my children's father more than 5 years ago and enjoy a fairly good friendship with him, which is mainly for the benefit of the children who are still young. Links to this post. Gee, ...

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single-minded-endeavours: September 2013

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Life from the other side of coupledom. Saturday, 28 September 2013. Read this (so they told me). Over the last five years I've amassed a considerable amount of well meaning advice by well of (mainly) books and websites. Rather than bore the minions with my own opinions (woohoo that rhymes! This week, I'm offering you a selection of some of the best ones:. Http:/ www.5lovelanguages.com/. Http:/ www.virtuallylove.com/2011/09/01/love-seeks-solutions-fear-seeks-failure/. Http:/ www.marsvenus.com/. You will a...

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single-minded-endeavours: fake it til you break it

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Life from the other side of coupledom. Wednesday, 22 April 2015. Fake it til you break it. Why is it that we turn away from each other when faced with pain, rather than to our greatest source of potential healing? As every currently unpartnered person knows - the totally stupid thing is that all too often we see leaving the problem as a whole lot more attractive option than fixing it. '. If you wouldn't do it with your spouse right next to you, it's cheating. '. Is this common.normal.behaviour? We seem t...

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single-minded-endeavours: what a friend would do - part two

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Life from the other side of coupledom. Wednesday, 12 November 2014. What a friend would do - part two. I was thinking today .about the people we treat best in our lives.the most consistently, with the most respect, with the most kindness and tolerance.the ones we are loyal to in the most trying of circumstances, the ones we take phone calls from at odd hours, make endless cups of coffee for when we have far more pressing issues to attend to, that we ignore the foibles and habits of. I get that no one wan...

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single-minded-endeavours: August 2015

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Life from the other side of coupledom. Tuesday, 18 August 2015. The perils of navel gazing. This week I have spent time with several couples all at different stages of their repartnered life. One couple have been together more than 30 years, another around 15 years and the other are is only just heading into their third year together. Everyone into a new life. There's houses to find (can you even imagine how many bedrooms and bathrooms they need! Personalities to co-ordinate and budgets to negotiate.

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single-minded-endeavours: April 2015

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Life from the other side of coupledom. Wednesday, 22 April 2015. Fake it til you break it. Why is it that we turn away from each other when faced with pain, rather than to our greatest source of potential healing? As every currently unpartnered person knows - the totally stupid thing is that all too often we see leaving the problem as a whole lot more attractive option than fixing it. '. If you wouldn't do it with your spouse right next to you, it's cheating. '. Is this common.normal.behaviour? We seem t...

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single-minded-endeavours: August 2013

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Life from the other side of coupledom. Friday, 9 August 2013. I've had some changes in my parenting in the last few weeks. As a result of working too many hours, and being way too preoccupied with my job (hm mm was it an attempt to subconsciously escape my home life.a topic for another blog), I turned into psychomummy and I'm ashamed to admit it. Way too much shushing, way to much 'soon'ing and WAY too much yelling. I asked one of the kids about it yesterday - and got a blank look. Were things better...

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single-minded-endeavours: Ain't nobody love like you do

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Life from the other side of coupledom. Tuesday, 11 August 2015. Ain't nobody love like you do. But I do believe it's rubbish because of this bit: 'Love yourself'. What the heck does that even mean? I can say I quite like myself, most of the time, and there are things about myself that I love some of the time, but LOVE myself. Yeah nah. Respect myself? Yes Love my body? Ie love). Errrr no. I rather prefer the company of others, an OTHER, MY other. But back to self love. Love is a word that gets thrown...

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single-minded-endeavours: Hit and miss

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Life from the other side of coupledom. Friday, 14 November 2014. I know we often want it all happy and positive, but that’s just not where much of humanity is. Let’s illuminate it instead Jeff Brown - Soulshaping. Grief is, I think, the crappiest emotion that we as humans have to go through. To lose something, even if it's only a projection of reality, creates pain. And pain is at the heart of loss. On my other blog. But I digress). And as my readers will know, this blog, whilst a summation of many o...

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single-minded-endeavours: October 2014

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Life from the other side of coupledom. Monday, 6 October 2014. The details of what happened in the ensuing year, and how I came to be in a place of sadness again are kind of irrelevant - the purpose of my writing is to simply try and make sense of how I feel today. I understand that this will pass. It has before. These feelings will, most likely, happen again - that's life right? We live, we love, we lose, and we gain again. But for today, thoughts really are like butterflies. Links to this post.