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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT: How Do I Motivate My Family to Help Around The House?
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT. Discussing the struggles of normal people and psychotherapy. The rest of the info. Tuesday, November 29, 2011. How Do I Motivate My Family to Help Around The House? It has been a bit since I’ve written but this morning brought an all-too-common problem. The other adults in the home are entirely able to be responsible for a division of household chores – but Jane tells me that they are indifferent to the clutter, dirty dishes and trash. It is entirely natural that we all would a...
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT: Anger management or Power/Control
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT. Discussing the struggles of normal people and psychotherapy. The rest of the info. Wednesday, May 19, 2010. Anger management or Power/Control. It reads more like a theological treatise than a medical-science document. Usually it will say some variant of, “It is believed that pharmoxatine works by…” BELIEVED? In other words, they DON’T KNOW! So, I tell patients that I have a belief… and like other beliefs, it may or may not be true.). One of my central beliefs is that all of us.
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT: The Disease of Abnormal Integrity
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT. Discussing the struggles of normal people and psychotherapy. The rest of the info. Saturday, August 4, 2012. The Disease of Abnormal Integrity. The disease of abnormal integrity is an expression coined (I believe) by my mentor, Carl Whitaker, M.D. Carl was part physician, part psychiatrist, part obstetrician and gynecologist, part philosopher and part dairy farmer. Being a grandfather taught him to be tender and playful. Being a farmer taught him to be ruthless. I suppose I bec...
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT: The Story of You (and Me)
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT. Discussing the struggles of normal people and psychotherapy. The rest of the info. Monday, April 16, 2012. The Story of You (and Me). Standard Disclaimer: Psychology and its sibling, psychiatry are not nearly the science that too many believe they are. Psychology and psychiatry have more in common with philosophy and religion. Psychology and psychiatry present a model and models are limited, imperfect explanations. I don’t recall anyone explicitly telling me that. I d...One may...
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT: October 2014
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT. Discussing the struggles of normal people and psychotherapy. The rest of the info. Friday, October 31, 2014. This blog has transitioned to my "Psych-Article. You can find Psych-Article at Psych-Article. Subscribe to our mailing list. Links to this post. Subscribe to: Posts (Atom). There was an error in this gadget. Ali Javanbakht, MD. Subscribe To Rob's Blog. This blog has transitioned to my Psych-Article. Subscribe to Rob's Blog.
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT: Emotional Maturity
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT. Discussing the struggles of normal people and psychotherapy. The rest of the info. Friday, August 17, 2012. The other day, I was having a conversation about what constitutes “emotional maturity”. I discussed the topic with a number of people and no one seemed to have a very clear idea about what defines emotional maturity or how one becomes emotionally mature. A Definition of Maturity:. The willingness to tolerate/accept the predictable emotional fallout from your choice. These...
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT: Fair Fighting
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT. Discussing the struggles of normal people and psychotherapy. The rest of the info. Thursday, May 20, 2010. Some time ago, the John Grey book, “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” was published. I’ve never read the book but it reminded me of what my old teacher used to say. “The fact that we are both speaking English only augments the delusion that we’re speaking the same language.” Does this seem confusing? Does I am surprised it’s not an even bigger problem. An obsessive ...
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT: Worthy of repeat - Boundaries!!!!
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT. Discussing the struggles of normal people and psychotherapy. The rest of the info. Wednesday, August 10, 2011. Worthy of repeat - Boundaries! Having practiced psychotherapy for more than two decades, I’ve noticed that certain themes or topics seem to be perennial. I infer that these themes are reflective of certain common human foibles. The theme that has come up again is in the top-ten “golden oldies”, maybe in the top five. Can you guess what it is? If you guessed BOUNDARIES.
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT: The drama game... (let's stop playing it)
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT. Discussing the struggles of normal people and psychotherapy. The rest of the info. Thursday, June 10, 2010. The drama game. (let's stop playing it). I’m referring to the pattern of interaction when two people enact the role of “Rescuer”, “Victim”, or “Persecutor”. The process is perhaps best illustrated by what is now called the “drama triangle” first described by Stephen Karpman in an article he authored in 1968. Do you feel that others often take unfair advantage of you?
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT: Power/Control - Redux
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Robert Bannister, MA, MFT. Discussing the struggles of normal people and psychotherapy. The rest of the info. Monday, May 24, 2010. In an earlier post (Anger management or Power/Control) I stated my belief that all of us, from birth ‘till death, want more power and control over our environment. I believe this is an inborn instinct, neither good nor bad. I'd like to say a bit more about it here. Become problematic if one develops an inflated or grandiose sense of how much power and control we have. The tr...
