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Heather T. Forbes, LCSW: January 2015
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Tuesday, January 27, 2015. Does your child hate school? Let's make this different together. Join Heather T. Forbes, LCSW, live TONIGHT. For her ONLINE "Beyond Consequences Classroom" course. Come as a guest to this first class. That's right, there is no charge to be a full participant in this beginning session! To find out more. 5 Weeks of LIVE Support. Tuesdays: January 27 - February 24, 2015. Each Class is Recorded. This course will focus on the following school issues:. How to Reduce Homework Battles.
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Heather T. Forbes, LCSW: Your Child is Misbehaving, Are You Listening?
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Tuesday, March 31, 2015. Your Child is Misbehaving, Are You Listening? Your Child is Misbehaving, Are You Listening? By: Heather T. Forbes, LCSW. When reviewing records of many of the children with whom I work, I am forever perplexed at one particular notation I continually see written by therapists and counselors. Under the list of negative traits of the child, it is often written,. Child exhibits attention-seeking behaviors.". Most children know that they should not curse. They use profanity to jar...
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Heather T. Forbes, LCSW: February 2015
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Tuesday, February 24, 2015. Reclaiming the Love of Learning. Reclaiming the Love for Learning. When the teacher says to a non-traumatized child, "Andy, can you please settle down and quietly have a seat? Heather T. Forbes, LCSW. Parent and Author of Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control: Volume 1. And Help for Billy. Tuesday, February 17, 2015. When Siblings Become Traumatized. However, listening to your daughter's challenges can easily evoke feelings of guilt, shame, and perhaps, resentment in you....
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Heather T. Forbes, LCSW: December 2014
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Monday, December 29, 2014. Motivating a Lazy Child. Q: How does being extremely selfish fit into the trauma issue? Last Sunday evening, it became very obvious that my teenage daughter was not going to lift a finger to help with our Sunday family dinner when our other children and extended family were all helping out. She said she was tired. A: It fits in perfectly. When children are in survival mode or simply overwhelmed, they feel as if they have to protect themselves and. Instead, work on the core issu...
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Heather T. Forbes, LCSW: Perception is Everything
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Thursday, April 30, 2015. I have recently had several phone consults with therapists and case workers seeking advice on how to help children exhibiting difficult behaviors. Listening to their descriptions of these children has painfully reinforced to me how one's perception of a child is paramount. It directly influences whether the child has a chance for healing or whether he will be targeted as the "problem" before he even enters the starting gates. This is a 10-year-old boy who is out of control.
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Heather T. Forbes, LCSW: Manipulation Madness
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Tuesday, June 16, 2015. My foster child can be amazingly manipulative, all the time! If I lovingly respond to her, am I not just reinforcing this behavior? Let's step back and look at early childhood interactions between the parent and the infant. It is there that we will find the roots of manipulative behavior and will be able to create a new understanding. Thus, the communication between the parent and child happens at a non-verbal level. When the child gives signals to the parent, the child experi...
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Heather T. Forbes, LCSW: November 2014
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Wednesday, November 26, 2014. National Adoption Month Article #3. Feelings, Behaviors, and Relationships. This article is based off the book “Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control.”. By: Heather T. Forbes, LCSW. 8220;Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control”. Has been "emotionally hijacked". Emotions are not logical or rational ; this hitting and kicking is the body's natural fear reaction gone awry. But I’m not! Did anyone ever tell you, “Just think happy thoughts and it will be okay.”? Probably not...
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Heather T. Forbes, LCSW: March 2015
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Tuesday, March 31, 2015. Your Child is Misbehaving, Are You Listening? Your Child is Misbehaving, Are You Listening? By: Heather T. Forbes, LCSW. When reviewing records of many of the children with whom I work, I am forever perplexed at one particular notation I continually see written by therapists and counselors. Under the list of negative traits of the child, it is often written,. Child exhibits attention-seeking behaviors.". Most children know that they should not curse. They use profanity to jar...
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Heather T. Forbes, LCSW: Dinnertime Tantrums
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Tuesday, July 7, 2015. Q: My four-year-old sits down to dinner and says, "I don't like that." He either won't eat at all or won't eat his vegetables. He then gets annoyed, trying to leave the table, whining and refusing to eat. This happens five out of seven nights. How do I respond without consequences? Meal times are clearly a stressful time for not only your child, but for you as well. I'm certain that for you at this point, even the thought of dinnertime creates a stress reaction in you. Recognize th...
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Heather T. Forbes, LCSW: July 2015
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Tuesday, July 28, 2015. Asking the Right Question. After reading parenting book after parenting book, I have come to one very important conclusion. We have been asking the wrong question. We have been asking, "How do I get my child to change his behavior? The focus has been on moving a child from negative behavior to positive behavior. Do they create lasting change or do you find yourself constantly digging into your bag of "tricks" to find something new and innovative because the old. The right question...
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