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Bittersweet Truths: "You look pretty in pink"
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Tuesday, January 19, 2010. You look pretty in pink". The above title was sent to me in an email last night which has inspired me to write about a memory I had of preparing for my husband's funeral. She had sussed this out by the clothes I was wearing. I must have been pink all over! Then the florist suggested I throw a blue flower and pink flower tied together. I felt so moved by this. I had been busy, busy, busy, thinking about my husband's likes and wishes. By doing so I had failed by not ackno...The f...
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Bittersweet Truths: The Phone Call
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Saturday, January 23, 2010. One day last week I had popped out for a short time leaving my son at home, who was sick from school on that particular day. I, then explained to Dean, how it doesn't matter how many letters someone writes to inform organizations and individuals that someone has died, the letters or phone calls will still keep coming. I can't predict which databases my husband would still be on in order to have them removed. Dean seemed to be very accepting of the situation. I proceeded to tel...
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Bittersweet Truths: Candle revisited
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Monday, January 18, 2010. On Sunday I decided to cook a Sunday roast. I don't normally do this very often because it is too much hard work and both my sons are very fussy eaters. Rick and Dean had been very keen to hear about this encounter and they were okay for me to light it again. This time, as soon as I had lit it, the flame didn't die down. However the flame was never as tall or as bright as when it had been Rupert's birthday. It was just a normal candle. The magic was gone. Much love, Mum X. Its w...
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Bittersweet Truths: Midnight Rambling
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Monday, June 2, 2008. I'm new to blogging and don't really know what to expect. Nor how often I will get the chance to do this. My husband, Rupert, is upstairs on his computer. Oh, what luxury to have peace and quiet downstairs on my own. The only trouble is how long for? Well here goes. I might as well make the most of this. I don't know when I'll get the chance again. If I hear any footsteps coming down the stairs I'll quickly go back to playing solitaire! A lot to take on board. My eldest son Rick bro...
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Bittersweet Truths: The Truth hurts
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Tuesday, March 9, 2010. I'm so sorry I haven't blogged for a few weeks. I made a certain discovery which has changed my life upside down for good . I have been in the depths of despair ever since and have been left in fragments. I can never be the same person again as a result. I wonder whether there is anyone else out there who has had a difficult relationship. I feel rather a misfit in society. I go to a group called WAY (widowed and young - under 50) but have yet to meet anyone who has gone th...I try...
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Bittersweet Truths: The importance of sitting with a dying person
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Thursday, January 28, 2010. The importance of sitting with a dying person. I had previously wondered whether I should have done more when I sat with my dying husband. Could I have said more, held his hand, stroked his face, etc. But largely I had forgotten about having thought this until I went to church last week. I went to a healing service with my son, hoping he would be healed of his eczema. I immediately felt stunned, gob-smacked. I knew this message was for me. I had only ever wondered why ...I gue...
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Bittersweet Truths: Daytime Ramblings of Painful Anniversairies
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Sunday, January 10, 2010. Daytime Ramblings of Painful Anniversairies. A lot has happened since I last did any blogging back in June 2008! If you read my posts you would know my husband was receiving radiotherapy following a brain tumour. Rupert, my husband, tragically died on September 20th 2008 from this. We had kept the "DAD" oasis and covered it with tinsel and baubles which had brightened up his grave. I feel so guilty as hell that it is him 6 feet under and not me. I ask"Why him? I lit a candle at ...
