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Random thoughts, perspectives and ideas. December 6, 2014. Letting Go of Shame. Many of us were victimized, sometimes more than once. We may have been physically abused, sexually abused, or exploited by the addictions of another. Understand that if another person has abused us, it is not cause for us to feel shame. The guilt for the act of abuse belongs to the perpetrator, not the victim. Even if in recovery we fall prey to being victimized, that is not cause for shame. Find recovery resources at Hazelden.
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Random thoughts, perspectives and ideas. Next Post →. October 17, 2014. Letting Go of Chaos: October 15. No good work comes from unrest. Unrest, fear, anger, or sadness may motivate us. These feelings are sometimes intended to compel action. But our best work emerges after these feelings have been replaced by peace. We will not accomplish our task any sooner, or any better, by performing it out of a sense of urgency, fear, anger, or sadness. Quoted from the book Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie.
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Enabling and detaching | Reflections
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Random thoughts, perspectives and ideas. Detaching with Love: October 20. Sometimes people we love do things we don’t like or approve of. We react. They react. Before long, we’re all reacting to each other, and the problem escalates. When do we detach? Often, it’s time to detach when detachment appears to be the least likely, or possible, thing to do. Today, I will surrender and trust that the answer is near. Quoted from the book Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. J D Murphy, M.A., LMFT. Providing...
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Random thoughts, perspectives and ideas. Next Post →. October 13, 2014. Being Gentle with Ourselves. During Times of Grief: October 12. The process of adapting to change and loss takes energy. Grief is draining, sometimes exhausting. Some people need to cocoon for transformation, in Pat Carnes’s words, while going through grief. Grief is heavy. It can wear us down. It is okay to allow ourselves to cocoon during times of transformation. We can surrender to the process, and trust that a new, exciting e...
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Random thoughts, perspectives and ideas. Next Post →. November 5, 2014. Let’s Make a Deal: November 5. One of the most frustrating stages of acceptance is the bargaining stage. In denial, there is bliss. In anger, there is some sense of power. In bargaining, we vacillate between believing there is something we can do to change things and realizing there isn’t. We may get our hopes up again and again, only to have them dashed. Adult children have bargained with their losses too: Maybe if I’m the perfect c...
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Random thoughts, perspectives and ideas. Next Post →. November 2, 2014. The Grief Process: November 2. To let ourselves wholly grieve our losses is how we surrender to the process of life and recovery. Some experts, like Patrick Carnes, call the Twelve Steps a program for dealing with our losses, a program for dealing with our grief. How do we grieve? When we talk about unfinished business from our past, we are usually referring to losses about which we have not completed grieving. We’re talking abou...