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Healthy Foundations Wisdom: Your Facebook Friends?
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Tuesday, November 19, 2013. Why are they counted among your friends? Why are do they feel welcome at your potluck, or dinner table when you should be visiting them in jail? Listen, I understand you don't want to be unfriendly. I know you hope you can change them. Maybe you even think you can be friends with everyone and not ever need to take a stand at all. But who do you really think you are helping? Admitting fully to what he has done. Stopping all blaming of her (or others). Owning his part completely.
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Healthy Foundations Wisdom: October 2012
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Thursday, October 18, 2012. Is Time Out a Good Option? When our kids are having a melt-down or we as parents are close to losing it, isn't time out a great idea? Doesn't it provide the needed relief, at least for the moment? Doesn't it keep us from reacting poorly in a stress-filled situation? It seems like such a non-violent option. The problem is it really isn't as effective in helping misbehavior as one would hope. Make sure you are managing your own emotions first. Are you reacting? Ask your child if...
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Healthy Foundations Wisdom: April 2013
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Wednesday, April 17, 2013. The Value of Family. What if like Bryan Post says, instead of trying to get rid the bad behavior, we first honor it? Let's begin to respect the place that it comes from. Post says, “Our bodies and minds are brilliant- they only act out when it's deemed necessary. When we can get to the point that we are able to observe the bad behavior without judging it, maybe we'll be able to understand why it was necessary in the first place”(The Post Institute). We will practice courage in ...
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Healthy Foundations Wisdom: Parents and Power Struggles: The Things I Don’t Fight With My Kids About
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Friday, July 11, 2014. Parents and Power Struggles: The Things I Don’t Fight With My Kids About. I work with a lot of parents who have adopted children who are engaged in power struggle on a daily basis as they and their children fight for control. What if it isn’t right? What if instead of reacting and trying to gain the upper hand because we are afraid for our own loss of power and control, we could take a step back and get ahold of the relationship first? A power struggle works because two are willing...
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Healthy Foundations Wisdom: May 2014
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Wednesday, May 21, 2014. New Lessons in Self Compassion. ALL PEOPLE ARE WORTHY OF COMPASSION, MYSELF INCLUDED. If we are open hearted to our selves, we will have more to give, not less. We have to invite ourselves to be compassionate toward our self in order to even have anything to give to others. Remember the oxygen mask.put it on first and then help others. Or what about the truth of "Love your neighbor as yourself"? So how do we teach our children to be self compassionate? So many benefits. I can...
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Healthy Foundations Wisdom: March 2013
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Thursday, March 21, 2013. Rewards and Punishments: Finding a Better Way. The core of a system that relies on rewarding and punishing behaviors has deep roots behaviorism. What Alfie Kohn argues in his book, Punishment by Rewards. It does little to give solace to those who have been abused, abandoned or neglected by society or worse by the those meant to care for them. Our kids from hurt places have a deep sense of failure and hopelessness about themselves and the world around them. I am a licensed profes...
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Healthy Foundations Wisdom: December 2012
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Wednesday, December 26, 2012. Why am I getting so upset? How can I create felt safety and love? What can I do right now to improve my relationship with this person? What if the school and church was part of the treatment plan? What is really going on and what does this child really need from me? What resources can we use? How do we connect through every difficulty? What is happening inside the child (or any of us) resulting in this behavior seen on the outside? Challenging people need a balance of nurtur...
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Healthy Foundations Wisdom: Rewards and Punishments: Finding a Better Way
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Thursday, March 21, 2013. Rewards and Punishments: Finding a Better Way. The core of a system that relies on rewarding and punishing behaviors has deep roots behaviorism. What Alfie Kohn argues in his book, Punishment by Rewards. It does little to give solace to those who have been abused, abandoned or neglected by society or worse by the those meant to care for them. Our kids from hurt places have a deep sense of failure and hopelessness about themselves and the world around them. I am a licensed profes...
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Healthy Foundations Wisdom: The Value of Connection: Parenting From the Inside Out
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Thursday, September 26, 2013. The Value of Connection: Parenting From the Inside Out. Another factor to this is that most children from hard places are accustomed to people around them who react to whatever happens to them next. There is very little proactive, impulse control or decision making happening around them. Why do we have to work so hard to connect with some kids? They are not equipped to be in a relationship. Fear does not build relationships and when a child’s brain is still operati...I am a ...
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Healthy Foundations Wisdom: New Lessons in Self Compassion
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Wednesday, May 21, 2014. New Lessons in Self Compassion. ALL PEOPLE ARE WORTHY OF COMPASSION, MYSELF INCLUDED. If we are open hearted to our selves, we will have more to give, not less. We have to invite ourselves to be compassionate toward our self in order to even have anything to give to others. Remember the oxygen mask.put it on first and then help others. Or what about the truth of "Love your neighbor as yourself"? So how do we teach our children to be self compassionate? So many benefits. I can...
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