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A Non Custodial Mother: September 2011

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A Non Custodial Mother. Confessions from a life unexpected. Monday, September 12, 2011. Are You My Mother? She launched into various questions about how I have handled different situations as a mother without physical custody of my children. Her children are young and she’s grappling with many of the same issues I dealt with in that after the wheels came off my marriage and I had to navigate the rubble of our new reality. She then posed a question that cuts to the core of a mother's essence. While an ext...

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A Non Custodial Mother: When Mommy has to Man Up

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A Non Custodial Mother. Confessions from a life unexpected. Wednesday, March 23, 2011. When Mommy has to Man Up. This story was recently featured on my new friend and Huffington Post writer, Lee Block's website, " The Post Divorce Chronicles. 8211; Urbandictionary.com. In the first few months after the “Big Bang” (the name of the chapter in my book. I would have to “man up.”. What will people think if I am not the full time mom. In the end, it simply didn’t matter – I couldn’t let it&#4...I think if you ...

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A Non Custodial Mother: The Real Cost of Custody Battles

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A Non Custodial Mother. Confessions from a life unexpected. Friday, November 18, 2011. The Real Cost of Custody Battles. This piece first appeared on Fathers and Families. For the past eight years, I’ve adopted and grown into both the idea and reality of being a role reversal model of the mother as the non-custodial parent. Of course there will be exceptions to this rule, but don’t children and their capable, loving, non-abusive parents deserve the right to equal parenting time? They swiftly corrected me.

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A Non Custodial Mother: Co-Parenting Alone

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A Non Custodial Mother. Confessions from a life unexpected. Friday, October 21, 2011. This piece originally appeared in the Non Custodial Mom Chronicles. On Post Divorce Chronicles. I dumped my work clothes unceremoniously in a pile onto the bathroom floor and set my beer bottle on the edge of the tub alongside a family-size package of Red Vines. I’d had a bad day – no, a bad week, and one benefit of being a. Is the ability to wallow in self-pity every now and again without your children witnessing it.

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A Non Custodial Mother: December 2011

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A Non Custodial Mother. Confessions from a life unexpected. Thursday, December 1, 2011. Unforced Errors in Co-Parenting. Only a few days earlier, Claire had called me in tears. 8220;Dad said he won’t walk me out onto the court for my last home volleyball game since I told him I didn’t want her out there with me. Mom, I want you to do it. Not her.”. To put it in volleyball terms, this was more than a side-out. My daughter recently went on a little rant about this exact thing to my husband and me. My daugh...

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A Non Custodial Mother: Run Away Home

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A Non Custodial Mother. Confessions from a life unexpected. Friday, January 28, 2011. Eight years ago, I let my children go live with their father. I signed over most of my rights to him, trusting that we would still parent them together, but thinking that his big suburban house, well-manicured cul-de-sac neighborhood, nationally-ranked school district, and his new wife's 'work from home' schedule would be best for my kids. Isn't that what caring parents are supposed to do if they divorce? The war had be...

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A Non Custodial Mother: Unforced Errors in Co-Parenting

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A Non Custodial Mother. Confessions from a life unexpected. Thursday, December 1, 2011. Unforced Errors in Co-Parenting. Only a few days earlier, Claire had called me in tears. 8220;Dad said he won’t walk me out onto the court for my last home volleyball game since I told him I didn’t want her out there with me. Mom, I want you to do it. Not her.”. To put it in volleyball terms, this was more than a side-out. My daughter recently went on a little rant about this exact thing to my husband and me. My daugh...

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A Non Custodial Mother: The Big Bang, 10 Years Later

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A Non Custodial Mother. Confessions from a life unexpected. Wednesday, February 29, 2012. The Big Bang, 10 Years Later. It was Valentine’s Day. Yet there I was, blubbering in the bathtub. I’d spent a fabulous romantic 45th birthday in San Francisco with Noah, and chose to look at the 10 year anniversary of the Big Bang as a necessary evil that, in one fell swoop, practically catapulted me into a new life and later, the arms of a wonderful man who cherished me. He also said that the cell phones they&#8217...

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A Non Custodial Mother: August 2011

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A Non Custodial Mother. Confessions from a life unexpected. Saturday, August 27, 2011. Better, Not Bitter. This piece originally appeared in the Non Custodial Mom Chronicles. On Post Divorce Chronicles. What if life is a series of events and happenings that God (or Destiny) puts in front of us for our own good? What if our purpose in life is to see the path in front of us and go along with it, even if it’s not what we planned for ourselves. It dismantled our family, and I didn’t want to share my ki...

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A Non Custodial Mother: Thanksgiving Without My Kids

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A Non Custodial Mother. Confessions from a life unexpected. Wednesday, November 23, 2011. Thanksgiving Without My Kids. When you're divorced, usually you have to share your kids during the Holidays. For me, every other year is my year to celebrate in a very different way than when my kids are with me. On Thanksgiving, this year at least, my children are celebrating with their father. The quiet of an empty house. Sometimes I feel hollow, sorry for myself, and lonely. My children’s and my health. The knowl...