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developing an appropriate reaction sequence – given up for you
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Given up for you. Developing an appropriate reaction sequence. August 15, 2015. August 17, 2015. I’ve been advised to use Bloom for Women (.com) to learn how to control myself and cope with his addiction. I’m two videos into my first class and the topic of discussion is the Reaction Sequence; i.e. how I respond when I’m triggered. The steps of a typical RS are. I realize my thought/behavior process is unhealthy and disordered; codependent. Belief – I become immersed in the thoughts that he doesn...
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PTSD – given up for you
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Given up for you. August 18, 2015. I listened to a podcast yesterday entitled “Am I Crazy? 8221; – it covered the wild emotions and thoughts a wife endures and then at the end, the doctors advised their listeners to take a PTSD assessment and proceed with the results, whether positive or negative. I found an instrument and was surprised at how many boxes I could check to the affirmative. Insane. No – actually,. And you know what? You’re so super strong! 8221; I smiled. “I am! This isn’t much differ...
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July 2015 – given up for you
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Given up for you. I can’t change him and Facing Reality. July 23, 2015. July 23, 2015. But I will not change him. Only God can stir a transformation in his heart, a conversion. That conversion will be between God and him. I wonder if we are both equally preoccupied with his addiction – he indulges and fights while I read Al-Anon books and journal. It’s consumed our marriage if this is the case. But we don’t talk about it. In all my writing though, I have yet to stress that he is a. July 20, 2015. When I&...
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addictswhyfe – given up for you
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Given up for you. October 8, 2016. October 8, 2016. He was 7 1/2 months sober when he fell again. I was prideful, I admit; I thought we were bulletproof. His perspective had shifted and he made me feel. For the first time in our marriage I had grown comfortable in my own skin, confident in the presence of my husband. The first time was rough. I shook with anger as he confessed. The second was when I was out of town for the weekend. About 5 days ago. The third was last night. So I have blessings to count&...
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about this journal – given up for you
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Given up for you. July 17, 2015. May 14, 2016. In brief, here are our surrounding circumstances. The soul of a porn addict’s wife is troubled. I doubt myself. I don’t trust him. I wonder if we’ll ever be free. It’s a terrible weight to bear for us both and we have to face the pain. He’s an addict who cheated on me with his mind, heart, and body. “The other woman” isn’t real, which makes her difficult to compete with. I need a safe place. An anonymous place. Leave a Reply Cancel reply. On the way to Heave...
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what he needed to hear – given up for you
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Given up for you. What he needed to hear. August 3, 2015. August 14, 2015. We were having a long, productive conversation about our relationship; things that are going well, what needs revision. The last time I brought up his addiction was painful because I had a drawn-out, emotional outburst that put him in a corner. Instead of getting a confession out of him like I sought then, he pushed me farther away and for weeks I felt like I was married to a stranger. I can’t change him and Facing Reality. Fill i...
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a matter of time – given up for you
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Given up for you. A matter of time. August 16, 2015. August 17, 2015. I’ve been mostly silent for as long as we’ve been married. And so I’d like to know a) when I’m allowed to get mad b) how I can reveal my anger in a healthy way; because DANG – I have some pent up hurt just stewing in here and though I have a couple of outlets, the only one I really care to tell is him. We need counseling. Because I get the feeling he doesn’t want to know how/that I’m being hurt. Nah, he knows. Jesus have mercy on us.
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about – given up for you
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Given up for you. Called to a Christlike love. I knew pornography was a problem for him early in our dating relationship, long before I married him. After spending our whole marriage in pain, we’re finally facing this problem together. He is seeing a porn addiction coach and I’m seeking spiritual direction and taking classes through Bloom for Women. Jesus have mercy on us both. Leave a Reply Cancel reply. Enter your comment here. Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:.
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August 2015 – given up for you
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Given up for you. August 25, 2015. I’ve stopped reading my Al-Anon book and it’s showing. My coping and self-control is shot and all I want to do is control and manipulate my husband into sobriety. Which is not the way to go about this. From now until I hit the sack, I will focus on myself and my own wellness and sanity. I will not dwell on my husband’s actions, but consider what I can do to make myself stand a little taller. St Bartholomew, pray for me! August 20, 2015. August 20, 2015. One sip at a tim...
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his defense mechanism – given up for you
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Given up for you. July 20, 2015. July 24, 2015. Sometimes I feel like. When I’ve figured out that he’s fallen, I don’t say anything. Maybe I should. But in the rare occasions when I’m looking. Into the face of guilt that just occurred. It’s as if he looks at me almost waiting for me to say something. And when I have before, he performed what I recently learned is classic addict behavior: he made me feel crazy. He said to me. I won’t do it again. Dear Jesus, I wish I could hear those words and trust them.
